(This is for my friend who’s afraid to start meditating because she “doesn’t know how”…)
For some reason, there’s still this idea going around that meditation should be done in a certain way. I thought I was the last person who thought that way before I started meditating years ago. Then today, when my friend told me that she doesn’t meditate because she “doesn’t know how to do it”, I realized that there must be more people out there who share her opinion.
This also made me want to figure out why I used to think that meditation should be done in a certain way and I did! And yes, you guessed it! It was pure ignorance. I judged it based on other people’s thoughts and experiences. I thought I needed to do meditate the way Deepak does. I got upset every time I read another book or watched another person meditate because it never matched with my experience, thoughts and feelings during meditation. Then, I started doing it “my way”… That did the trick. We all need to find a way to do what pleases us and makes us happy, think the way only we know how and why, and feel what our own heart is telling us. Meditation is one way to do it.
I won’t write about meditation (as you can find that everywhere on Internet), I just want to let people know that everybody can do it. And you shouldn’t be doing it like other people, you should do it in your own, unique way. Meditation is not straight forward like math, where 2+2=4 regardless of who you are and where you live. It’s much more than that, but in a different way. It’s an inside job! It’s awareness. It’s a way of being. A way of doing things throughout your day. A way of cherishing your every breath, every being that comes into your life. It becomes everything. It becomes you.
All you need to do is start with a basic meditation a few minutes a day and the rest will fall into place. Don’t let others scare you by telling you how you should meditate. There’s plenty of definitions made for us already. I think it’s time we define things and experiences for ourselves. We all live in an outside world of “isms”, labeling and a number of other things that we can’t control, so meditation is the time – and yes, a lifestyle – where we get to go to our inner world and do what we want (or nothing at all), be ourselves and think with our own beautiful, unique mind. Better yet, maybe not think at all!
I get into a place where I don’t think at all. This is where the magic happens. The benefits of meditation last pretty much throughout the day for some people, others may need (or want) to meditate a couple of times a day. You design your own way. You get to create your own experience.
Now, if you’ve never tried meditating, you may need to listen to a few different people guiding you through a meditation until you figure out how to do it on your own. Take away what you like and leave behind everything else. I’d encourage everybody to find their own “sweet spot” and meditate on their own for a while. As you go on, your mind and heart will guide you deeper and further, if you need to change something. From that point on, you won’t need anybody to tell you what to do. Your own self is all you need.
I’ve tried many meditations over the years, but if I were doing it again, I’d start here:
And another one:
Best of luck…. Let me know how you like these and what you’ve experienced.